If you're still washing your hair with shampoo first, you've been living under a rock.
Last year, my hairstylist shared a hack that changed my life completely.
Instead of shampooing first, condition your hair from the midsection to the ends. Then, without rinsing it off, apply shampoo while the conditioner is still left on the hair.
I've been washing my hair this way and it still works, with my hair remaining soft and tame.